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NOW WE ARE TOGETHER


RELATIONSHIP STEREOTYPE: NOW WE ARE TOGETHER 

(Part 2)



One of the last things I pointed out in the first part of this series is that "Love happens to us all in different ways, and we might find it in the weirdest places. You are allowed to have your preferences but don't allow your choice to blind you from seeing the beautiful person God is positioning before you". Meditate on this for a while.

Some people get stereotyped when they are still singularly single, while others who escape this end up becoming stereotyped after they have met the love of their life.
I hope you still remember what stereotyping means.
In its simplest form, it is about mind programming. It makes you believe what is not generally true about a group of people or certain things in life.
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Some people grew up having a set of expectations based on where and with whom they grew up with. It's not wrong to pick up one or two things about how a relationship will or should be from people you see around you. But you must understand that no two relationships or marriage are the same.
This will lead me back to talking about individualism. You must understand that all you want or see from another couple might not work for you because the couples are two individuals with a different personalities different from you and your spouse.



You must come to that point that you accept that even though these qualities are fantastic to have in marriage, you might not have it exactly that way, but then you can have something close to it in a different way with your unique partner. This means finding something that looks like what you want and doing it in your unique way.
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Please take note; it won't be all rosy and perfect. Some people desire a perfect marriage. Nooo. There is nothing like that. In relationships and marriage, there is nothing like perfection. It's more about growing to understand each other than perfection because we are humans with flaws.
You will disagree on things, but you don't have to fight. The flip side to this perfection stereotype is that some other people at the end of the other side have been pushed to believe that they will always be fighting and tearing up each other.
That is not true either. What's true here, and the only thing you need to believe is that because you are a human being with human will, there would be disagreement of views and choices, but it doesn't have to lead to a fight or calling of names.
There is no perfect relationship or marriage, but there is an intentional relationship or marriage where the couples chose to respect each other even when they experience difficulty agreeing to do a thing or make a decision.
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Another stereotype I have seen over the years is that some people don't believe in happy couples. Like, they don't think a couple could genuinely be happy with each other. Every happy couple they see, they assume they are pretending to be happy.
This is primarily because of their bad experience or because of their current situation. I want you to know there are couples genuinely happy, and you can be happy too if you can work on that toxic mindset that has built up over the years within you.
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Some people intentionally try to spoil their happy relationship. This is that part that I still don't understand to date. You wouldn't want to believe it, but it is true. There are some persons who feel if you are not physically abusing them, that is hitting them to correct them, for example, that means you are not man enough. Stereotypes.
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So I say all these to say these final words to you.

It doesn't have to be difficult. You are welcome to explore and experiment great things out with your partner and see what works. Try out new things. Don't allow what you have been told about difficulties in marriage to make you not enjoy yours especially negative things.
This means you can enjoy the best relationship if you have an open mind to discuss and create ways to enjoy your marriage the way you want to. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not endured. Do all you can not to find yourself enduring it but enjoying it.
Don't allow yourself to be stereotyped with negative information. Build on positivity. Prepare for the best and expect the best because you deserve the best.


Cheers.

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