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RELATIONSHIP STEREOTYPE: NOW WE ARE TOGETHER   (Part 2) One of the last things I pointed out in the first part of this series is that "Love happens to us all in different ways, and we might find it in the weirdest places. You are allowed to have your preferences but don't allow your choice to blind you from seeing the beautiful person God is positioning before you". Meditate on this for a while. Some people get stereotyped when they are still singularly single, while others who escape this end up becoming stereotyped after they have met the love of their life. I hope you still remember what stereotyping means. In its simplest form, it is about mind programming. It makes you believe what is not generally true about a group of people or certain things in life. . . Some people grew up having a set of expectations based on where and with whom they grew up with. It's not wrong to pick up one or two things about how a relationship will or should be from people you see aroun...

  RELATIONSHIP STEREOTYPE: BEFORE WE MET  (Part 1) One of the reasons many singles who desire a relationship or marriage still don't have it is because of what I call relationship stereotyping.  What is a stereotype? In social psychology, a stereotype is a generalized belief about a particular category of people. It is an expectation that people might have about every person of a specific group.  Another good definition I like is that stereotype is a mistaken idea or belief many people have about a thing or group that is based upon how they look on the outside, which may be untrue or only partly true.  Stereotypes in it's simplest form are about mind programming.  .  . We are in a world where racism is still a thing, and in my own country Nigeria, tribalism is still thriving. Parents stop their kids from getting married to the one they love because of what they believe about a tribe or an experience they had with a particular person from a place. ...

Let’s call it as it is. Being a mom is one of the hardest and thankless jobs there are. So much is done that no one sees. And how often do people stop to thank you when everything goes as planned?  3 things you wish you knew when you were a new mom ? 1) Change is constant. Change is constantly taking place, both in your kids and in you. Every time you get used to your kids being a certain way they change. Like once you get that infant baby part down, then they start walking and crawling. Some of their first  words are “mama” or “dada” and it fills your heart with joy, then they get older and use words that are… not as adorable. But not only your kids, through parenting, you change. Your body, your emotions, your wishes, and dreams all can (and probably will!) change because it’s no longer about you! Every day is different with its own blessings and challenges. Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8 starts by declaring “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the hea...

What It Takes To Be A Better Husband /couple Goals. Marriage is not an easy job, It’s just not easy to manage a home. There are always thorns that comes with marriage but the ability to overcome it, makes your marrital union a blisful one. You lie in your beds and roses will fall on you. If you want to be a better husband to your wife, make sure you apply this attributes to your daily life. 1. Absence of Pride Don’t be too proud or afraid to share your feelings with your wife. Tell her how you feel about her. Women crave to hear the 3 letter Word “I Love You” from their husband. Verbally tell her you love her everyday, don’t assume she already knows. 2. Be Patient With Her  When you see she ain’t doing things right, be patient with her and kindly direct her on how to do stuffs. She has a lot on her mind and bound to make mistakes, Don’t make her have a hard time trying to impress you. 3. Appreciate Her  Buy her gifts and tell her you appreciate her efforts. Don’t w...

As you probably remember, relationships build the first pillar of Internet Marketing for Smart People. After all: no relationship, no market, right? We need to have some kind of connection with folks before they’ll pull out their wallets. Sometimes people think that great relationships “just happen.” It’s your mom’s theory of marketing — “just be yourself and everyone will love you.” But you might have figured out by now: no one loves you like your mom does. And just being yourself sometimes needs a little help. Here are five strategic ways you can think about building the kinds of relationships that lead to sales, as well as to retweets, recommendations, and referrals for the great stuff you sell. 1. Generosity We human beings are rather simple at heart. If you do nice things for us, we tend to like you more. Fancy marketing types who have read their Robert Cialdini (and you should join them, by the way) call it reciprocity, even though Cialdini himself actually calls it r...

Some marriages are hard. They take work. They feel lonely. The relational and emotional distance can be difficult to reconcile – usually because one spouse doesn’t  want  to be close. Sometimes it’s just a season of marriage where busyness and misunderstanding seem to reign. In other marriages the effort needed can span years. HOW TO STAY STRONG IN A HARD MARRIAGE 7 Things you do when marriage is hard Some marriages are hard. They take work. They feel lonely. The relational and emotional distance can be difficult to reconcile – usually because one spouse doesn’t  want  to be close. Sometimes it’s just a season of marriage where busyness and misunderstanding seem to reign. In other marriages the effort needed can span years. So how does someone stay strong in a hard marriage? How can they hang on to hope, make healthy choices, and fight for their marriage? Here are seven things you can do to stay strong: 1. FIND YOUR IDENTITY FROM GOD As a man or woman you...